9 Things Insecure People Do That Ruin Their Lives

Insecurity is the dumbest thing that we all feel. Every person in the world has something he or she is insecure about – even if only slightly. Well, some of the less mentally stable may have issues with shame, guilt and empathy, but the average individual does feel insecure about something or other. It may not be a high level of insecurity, but insecurity nonetheless.

While a bit of insecurity is okay to deal with, a lot of it in certain areas can ruin your life. Even those of us who experience little insecurity could still be better off without it, being more likely to experience more in their lives. There really is only one way of ridding yourself of insecurity – you have to put yourself out there and live through whatever you’re afraid of.

It’s facing your fears because logically you understand that they are irrational. Insecurity is irrational. Irrationality has no place in our lives. All it does is frustrate us when we don’t get the results we’re hoping for. Those that live an insecure life don’t live a happy life.

1. Insecure individuals don’t have the confidence to try their hand at enough things.

That’s why they have so much trouble figuring out what they really want to do in life. The only way you can figure out how you should best live your life is by testing things out. You try things until you figure out what does and what doesn’t work for you, calculating the probability that the following test will result in positive experiences.

You try, you learn, you draw conclusions and you try again – that’s the only way to live. Those that are insecure hold themselves back from trying new things. The more you’re insecure, the less likely you are to find the ideal life. Personally, I think that’s a stupid tradeoff.

2. They live in a world of fear of judgment.

The more insecure you are, the more that insecurity weighs on your mind. You think more about it and think less about anything else. You live in fear, hoping that no one notices how flawed you are, even if only in one regard.

You’re scared of interacting with people because you don’t want them to see through you. People judge… that’s the way that we’re built. The real question is: Why does it matter to you so much? Most people won’t be as upset with your flaw as you imagine to begin with. And those that are, never really matter.

3. They usually avoid meeting new people.

People are very important parts of our lives. Many will go as far as to argue that the people in our lives are really the only thing of any importance whatsoever. The interaction shapes our lives and sadly not always for the better. Insecure people do have friends of some sort, but they usually aren’t great friends.

The insecure have a tendency for settling for things – people included. They’re just happy to get a handout when one is given to them. Such a miserable way to live life.

4. They never give it their all because they don’t believe their all is good enough.

They half-ass everything and end up living a half-assed life. Things only matter when we decide they matter. How much they matter depends on how much importance and meaning we give them. Your life is exactly that – the more you put in, the more it means. The less you put in, the less you try and the more you avoid responsibility for your life and your actions, the less meaning your life has.

5. The insecure can never entirely be themselves – they always hold themselves back.

Being insecure doesn’t excuse you from functioning within society. For this reason, they function under a false pretense, pretending to be people they aren’t. They hide their flaws and therefore hide themselves. If you’re insecure about something then either change it or remove it from your thoughts. What you can’t change isn’t worth worrying about. Don’t live your life in a shell. All the fun starts when you jump out of it.

6. Because they never attempt to be themselves, they never really find themselves or get to know themselves the way they should.

Most people don’t know themselves well because they don’t take the time to get to know themselves. The only way to get to know yourself is to live and see what happens – see how you react in certain situations, see what you enjoy and what you dislike, experience the world and find your place in it. If you aren’t honest with the world about who you are then you’ll never find a place in it.

7. Essentially, insecure people live in a world filled with denial.

The fact is that you’re awesome. You’re not perfect, but no one is. The only thing you should be insecure about is being irrational and illogical – everything else is subjective and out of your control. By being insecure, you are telling yourself that you’re not good enough the way you are. That’s a lie. You’re accepting a lie as the truth. That’s the textbook definition of denial.

8. They miss out on the best things that life has to offer.

Insecurity forces you to live less – literally. You do less and worry more, accumulating negative thoughts and missing out on new experiences and memorable moments. Life has so much to offer if you go out there and take what is given to you. You have opportunities to explore and grow as an individual daily. Choosing not to take advantage of it all is a waste of a life. Life is hard enough as it is; take whatever freebies are thrown your way.

9. Their relationships are doomed to fail.

Relationships require two people being honest with each other. The only way to do that is to first be honest with yourself. Insecurities come out during a relationship and create unnecessary tension – tension that has no place in a loving relationship.

Relationships can often do much good and get insecure individuals to accept and work on their insecurities. However, when they fail to do so, they fail to grow as people and their partners lose interest over time. Being insecure is depressing. Depression has a way of spreading and spoiling things.

10 Dream You Should Never Ignore

1. FLYING

Dreams of flying often indicate the need to reach ambition. Where are you going? How are you getting there? Are you having trouble navigating through life? Flying dreams tend to leave us recharged when we wake. There is a feeling of freedom and being able to accomplish anything in our way.

2. WATERFALLS

When we dream of water it usually conveys the emotional state of the mind. Water symbolizes cleansing and purity. To dream of waterfalls is a great omen. This represents new beginnings as the old is washed out.

If you see waterfalls in your dreams, ask yourself these questions: Is the waterfall a small one or a large one? How are you perceiving your obstacles? Is the waterfall in a dark jungle or a beautiful beach?

3. TEETH

Dreams with teeth are very common. Not all teeth dreams symbolize aging. Pulling of teeth symbolizes something that needs to come out, while rotten teeth symbolize the holding of fear and anxiety. Dreaming of falling teeth are the most typical of all teeth dreams. They are usually derived to new situations that cause stress: a new job, fear of loss, lack of power in a relationship, or lies that are being kept hidden.

If you see teeth in your dreams, ask yourself these questions: How do you feel about your teeth? We use our teeth to nourish the body. How are we nourishing our lives?

4. DEATH

Dreaming with death is more common than most people admit. As morbid as it feels, to dream of death usually symbolizes the ending of something. Death is the termination of ego parts. There is the death of anxiety and anger. The death of a situation. There is the death of an idea allowing for the birth of another. Dreaming of death or dying can be a psychological aspect of working tremendous changes in emotions.

If you see death in your dreams, ask yourself these questions: Where you the one who died? Was it a loved one? These dreams can also be guidance from a departed loved one trying to give comfort.

5. PREGNANT

Dreaming of being pregnant symbolizes a major growth and development. It can be geared to future projects and desires.

If you visualize pregnancy in your dreams, ask yourself these questions: What are you trying to create? What transformation are you encountering in your waking life? Are you pregnant with possibilities? Pregnant dreams can bring fruitful ideas for a job or relationship.

6. HOUSES

Dreams of houses symbolize the self and the different aspects of personality. Depending on the type of house or the different rooms the interpretation can deepen. Houses are about security and comfort. An attic symbolizes hidden memories, while a basement can mean intuition and the unconscious mind.

If you see houses in your dreams, ask yourself: How are you taking care of your body? How do you perceive yourself out in the world?

7. MONEY

Money dreams can allow us to wake with such gratitude. Dreaming with money is about luck and how we perceive our self-worth. Winning the lottery symbolizes a change in lifestyle while dreaming of giving money away is a fear of loss. Money dreams pertain to the core of our emotions towards the abundance and prosperity. Financial stability or losses are often stress factors in our lives.

If you see money in your dreams, ask yourself: Did you lose your job? Are you in debt? What would you do if you won the lottery? The relationship with finances is one that rarely leaves the mind during waking moments. Money symbolizes the flow of life.

8. ADULTERY

Dreaming of adultery signifies sexual desires and urges that are repressed or are needing to be expressed. These type of dreams also carry abandonment and fears, self-worth issues, and an unconscious acceptance of a problematic relationship.

If adultery appears in your dreams, ask yourself: Are you afraid of losing a loved one? Are you unhappy in your own relationship? How do you feel about your body and desires?

9. FIRE

Fire dreams can have several meanings depending on the context of the dream. Seeing fire in a distance symbolizes desire and transformation, while playing with fire can be a warning of risky activities. If you dream of starting a fire it symbolizes anger that is being repressed.

Ask yourself: Do you avoid risky situations? Do you spend your day putting out fires?

10. NAKED

Dreams of being naked are very common. They connect to our fear of being exposed. If the dream is about someone else being naked it signifies “the naked truth” of a situation or foretell an illicit affair. It can also mean the loss of respect. Nakedness is about accepting flaws and imperfections. Just like in waking moments it is about how much is exposed to the world of the self.

If you are naked in a dream, ask yourself: Are you afraid of being seen for who you are? Are you over exposing yourself?

Dreams represent episodes of our lives that can be analyzed in millions of ways, and the dreamer is the only one who can figure out the true emotional state of the dream. These are only a few suggestions into the world of night visions; the mind, body and spirit are intertwined and how we perceive the self plays over and over during our sleep.

The mind will try desperately to dictate, through short visions, how our emotions are being played. Anxiety or joy can change the way we sleep. It’s up to us to truly be aware how we carry ourselves during waking ours.

The One Woman For You

She’s a queen.

Throughout your life, all you guys will date many different kinds of girls. Some will be too clingy, some too indifferent. Some will make you the center of their entire world and some will become the center of yours. But just once in your lifetime, you’ll meet this girl who’ll stand out from all of them, who’ll make you wonder why there aren’t more of these girls in this world and who’ll truly be a high-quality girl.

• She inspires you to reach your true potential and to achieve greater things without being too demanding about it. She won’t force you to pursue the things you should because she trusts you enough to know that you’ll take the right decisions.

• She doesn’t play childish games or make attempts to get you jealous. She doesn’t have any insecurities about her relationship. She knows what she’s worth and she doesn’t feel the need to keep proving it to you or to herself.

• She doesn’t act like the whole world revolves around her. She wants love and respect from you and she’s willing to offer you the same. She won’t expect you to suppress your own desires just to keep her happy all the time.

• She doesn’t need you to be present in her life 24/7. She understands that you’re both two independent individuals who have a life outside of this relationship as well. You both give each other ample space and time to invest in your friends, family and career.

• You’ve never felt anxious about taking her to meet any of your friends or even your parents, for that matter. You’re aware that she can carry herself well and interact with all kinds of people. She’s wise enough to know what topics to discuss with your parents and when she’s with your friends, she can let loose and enjoy a good time.

• She knows how to take care of herself. She never wanted a relationship just so she could depend on someone for all kinds of physical, financial and mental support. No, she was in this to enjoy your company as an equal, to split all the bills, and to make sure that one person in the relationship isn’t being over-burdened.

• Her social media presence is not something that she’ll ever need to hide or be embarrassed about. She knows how to present herself in front of people, whether it’s in person or on a computer screen.

• She is never shy in the bedroom. If there’s something that she doesn’t or does want to do, she’ll come right out and say it. She’ll even explain her reasons for it instead of just getting awkward. She doesn’t act like your intimacy is something to be hidden and never talked about. She’s mature enough to accept it as a completely normal and healthy part of your relationship, the part that actually keeps the spark alive between you two.

• She has strong opinions on almost every topic. And she’ll never shy down from expressing them just to avoid arguments or to keep everyone happy. But this doesn’t mean that she’ll ever impose those opinions on you or anyone else. She is open to discussions and any disagreement you have won’t turn into a raging battle.

• If you have a fight or an argument, she won’t to try to end it by stating stereotypes like ‘all men are the same’ or ‘you men can’t ever understand us’. She realizes that every situation is different and you need to discuss the cause behind your fight rather than trying to put each other down with generalized statements.

• She is sure about her purpose in life. She has defined goals and benchmarks for herself and they won’t get affected by any obstacles that come her way.

• You feel like the luckiest guy in the world when you’re with her. Because one thing you’re sure of is that someone as amazing as her wouldn’t just date any guy. She is a strong independent woman and she isn’t afraid of being alone – so she must really like you if she has chosen to share her life with you!

"Soulmate" / "ソウルメイト" / "âme sœur"

"Soulmate" / "ソウルメイト" /  "âme sœur"

What is soulmate is actually... if you search the net, you will only find simple sentence., "a person ideally suited to another as a close friend or romantic partner." But it is more then that.,some said soulmate is a person that even you hiding something from the person.,that person will know it. And other said someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. No matter how we describe it it is still a mystery who are our soulmate is.

 It’s something inside. Describing how a soulmate makes you feel is difficult. It’s a tenacious, profound and lingering emotion which no words can encompass.

Flashbacks. If your partner is your soulmate, chances are he or she has been present in your past lives. Soulmates often choose to come back together during the same lifetime and scope each other out in the big world. You might suddenly and briefly experience flashbacks of your soulmate. You might even feel an odd sense of déjà vu, as if the moment in time has already taken place, perhaps a long time ago, perhaps in a different setting.

You just get each other. Ever met two people who finsh each other’s sentences? Some people call that spending too much time together, but I call it a soulmate connection. You might experience this with your best friend or your mother, but it is the telltale sign of a soulmate when you experience it with your partner.

You fall in love with his (or her) flaws. No relationship is perfect, and even soulmate relationships will experience ups and downs. Still, that bond will be much harder to break. Soulmates have an easier time of accepting, even learning to love, each other’s imperfections. Your relationship is more likely to be a soulmate match if you both love each other exactly as you each are, accepting both the great and awful tendencies we all have.

It’s intense. A soulmate relationship may be more intense than normal relationships, in both good and sometimes bad ways. The most important thing is that, even during negative episodes, you’re focused on resolving the problem and can see beyond the bad moment.

You two against the world. Soulmates often see their relationship as “us against the world.” They feel so linked together that they’re ready and willing to take on any feat of life, so long as they have their soulmate by their side. Soulmate relationships are founded on compromise and unity above all else.

You’re mentally inseparable. Soulmates often have a mental connection similar to twins. They might pick up the phone to call each other at the exact same time. Though life may keep you apart at times, your minds will always be in tune if you are soulmates.

You feel secure and protected. Regardless of the gender of your partner, he or she should always make you feel secure and protected. This means that if you’re a man, yes, your woman should make you feel protected, too! Your soulmate will make you feel like you have a guardian angel by your side. A person who plays on your insecurities, whether consciously or subconsciously, is not your soulmate.

You can’t imagine your life without him (or her). A soulmate is not someone you can walk away from that easily. It is someone you can’t imagine being without, a person you believe is worth sticking with and fighting for.

You look each other in the eye. Soulmates have a tendency to look into each other’s eyes when speaking more often than ordinary couples. It comes naturally from the deep-seated connection between them. Looking a person in the eye when speaking denotes a high level of comfort and confidence.